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To seereviews check out MI Book Reviews.I got an ARC of this book.I got this book because I have noticed an alarming trend of sexual violence in the gay male community in the area I am in I get death threats and threats of violence for being open about being a transman I am told I am worthless and do not belong I am excluded from pride events because of my status as trans by the organizers I have reached out to queer groups in the area, only to be turned away again and again Sexual vi To seereviews check out MI Book Reviews.I got an ARC of this book.I got this book because I have noticed an alarming trend of sexual violence in the gay male community in the area I am in I get death threats and threats of violence for being open about being a transman I am told I am worthless and do not belong I am excluded from pride events because of my status as trans by the organizers I have reached out to queer groups in the area, only to be turned away again and again Sexual violence in the norm for a transman in this area So I was looking to this book to help me unpack my feelings and start to deal with not only my own experiences of being sexually abused growing up, being raped when I was a teenager, and the multiple times of being molested by partners, but also deal with the fact that I often feel alone and not believed when it comes to my experiences I am told that what I experience is either completely fake or that I am exaggerating what it is really like to attempt to connect with other queer people here by the very community that claims to support me.This book was able to touch on every single issue I had from the I can t call this rape feelings of my teenage years to my mother didn t believe or care when I told her about grandpa to there are no services for someone that is queer like me to deal with this This book is tremendously powerful just in the bravery it takes the queer people to put their names on the stories because of how queer people are treated when they are honest about experiencing sexual violence The book covers a range of what sexual violence can be from what people view rape as to people who were clearly violated, but were unsure what to do or feel because of how their lives were The stories are intensely personal and necessary No one wants to believe these stories are possible, but they are There was not a single moment where doubt went through my mind That may be because of my own status as a survivor since it seems rare that someone is believed when it comes to sexual violence I listen to how people talk about it in the jail where I volunteer I work with kids who actively brag about how they will rape and kill someone or how they watched a girl get raped but how the guy doesn t deserve to be in jail because he is attractive There is so much disconnect between what is happening and what people see It scares me It sickens me This book touches on those feelings and took me further The pieces range from the academic theory of word choices survivor vs victim to graphic stories of abuse It was just the right mixture It allowed there to be logic and emotion It allowed the book to feel alive and breathing It allowed for all stages of healing to be represented It allowed all ways of healing to be seen Not everyone can afford therapy or find a therapist Not everyone is allowed to have a community because of who the person was who attacked them Not everyone has or wants to cut off ties with who committed the violence Not everyone wants to admit that queer sexual violence in a thing It is harder for people to admit that a man could be the victim and or a woman could be the perpetrator There is so much that people don t want to see or believe, that people are left behind and are being thrown away This book covers it all I can t say enough about this book This anthology is so important, progressive, and motivating.It s activism in the form of art.Do I bother to include a content warning These stories are VERY real, heavy, and could be triggering but the intent is to heal This istherapeutic than anything.I honestly want to thank the editor and publishers for putting this together and giving these survivors a platform It has this strange sort of affect that makes the reader s voice feelvaluable too that speaking about your own expe This anthology is so important, progressive, and motivating.It s activism in the form of art.Do I bother to include a content warning These stories are VERY real, heavy, and could be triggering but the intent is to heal This istherapeutic than anything.I honestly want to thank the editor and publishers for putting this together and giving these survivors a platform It has this strange sort of affect that makes the reader s voice feelvaluable too that speaking about your own experiences doesn t have to be shameful You don t have to be a silent victim And if you aren t ready to speak, these writers will do so for you.As for those who have never suffered abuse, there is still plenty of knowledge to gain here.Empowering read Books like this bring faith in humanity.Anyways, the voices that matter the most are in this book, so stop reading this review, get yourself a copy, and listen #FREE EPUB ⚟ Queering Sexual Violence: Radical Voices from Within the Anti-Violence Movement  Often pushed to the margins, queer, transgender and gender non conforming survivors have been organizing in anti violence work since the birth of the movement Queering Sexual Violence Radical Voices from Within the Anti Violence Movement locates them at the center of the anti violence movement and creates a space for their voices to be heard Moving beyond dominant narratives and the traditional violence against women framework, the book is multi gendered, multi racial and multi layered This thirty seven piece collection disrupts the mainstream conversations about sexual violence and connects them to disability justice, sex worker rights, healing justice, racial justice, gender self determination, queer trans liberation and prison industrial complex abolition through reflections, personal narrative, and strategies for resistance and healing Where systems, institutions, families, communities and partners have failed them, this collection lifts them up, honors a multitude of lived experiences and shares the radical work that is being done outside mainstream anti violence and the non profit industrial complex I received a copy of this book from Riverdale Avenue Books through Net Galley for an honest review As you can probably already guess from the title of this book, there are major trigger warnings associated with this Rape, abuse sexual, mental, and physical , and incest There are also a few essays in here that detail BDSM Rating this book was really complicated for me Reading it was, too, if I m being completely honest This is definitely one of those much needed books but there were a lo I received a copy of this book from Riverdale Avenue Books through Net Galley for an honest review As you can probably already guess from the title of this book, there are major trigger warnings associated with this Rape, abuse sexual, mental, and physical , and incest There are also a few essays in here that detail BDSM Rating this book was really complicated for me Reading it was, too, if I m being completely honest This is definitely one of those much needed books but there were a lot of things that were hard to stomach which I will talk about itdetail The things I liked about this book 1 The fact that this was about sexual violence as it pertains to Queer people We have a very heterocentric view of sexual violence where the perpetrator is male and the victim survivor is female Society is too willing to overlook sexual, physical, and mentally abuse in relationships between same sex couples and I think it stems from the fact that society doesn t see our relationships as being real I ve talked before about how many m m stories written by cishet women involve physical abuse and it s written as foreplay because men are expected to be violent with each other We don t allow men to be soft and in love, and when we have that mentality that they are supposed to be rough with each other, it s easier to turn a blind eye to violence between m m couples On the opposite end of the spectrum with f f relationships, abuse between two women is seen as women being typically catty It s masturbatory to think of two women who are sexually involved as being mean to each other before turning soft and sexual 2 It challenges safe centers and crisis hotlines that cater to cishet women but exclude trans women, Queer women, and non binary people and the fact that there are no spaces for cishet men to talk about their own abuse The first essay in the book is about a genderqueer individual who could not find a space that would talk to them about their sexual abuse They were turned away from hotlines and in person meetings because of the notion that victims survivors are only cishet women 3 The essays that discussed sexual violence that happens inside families Incest is such a taboo topic that even most crisis centers tend to shy away from talking about it but it s such a painful for reality for those of us who have survived being sexually assaulted or raped by a family member The two essays that really stuck out to me was the story of a woman who was forced by her family who were feminists and human rights activists to keep silence about the abuse she suffered at the hands of her step grandfather The other essay talked about something I haven t seen except in Sapphire s novel PUSH the abuse of a female child by a female family member While incest is taboo, sexual assault of a female child by a mother seems to be the ultimate taboo and something society has worked hard to sweep under the rug I loved the fact that these writers blew the top off of these topics and shed some light on a very painful experience in a way that wasn t shameful Too many times we look at incest and shy away from the victim because of the implications of incest Things I didn t like about this book 1 Twice in the book it was pointed out that a lot of perpetrators were once abused and that they shouldn t be punished I disagree with this so vehemently that I actually ranted about it on twitter I do understand cycling and while I feel for anyone who has been a victim of sexual violence, that victimization is not a free pass to go out and victimize someone else Everyone has a choice on whether or not they do harmful things If you choose to harm someone else, there are consequences and the fact that anyone would think otherwise is troublesome 2 Relating to my above opinion, I also disagreed with how many of the writers believed that abusers should be included in circles with the abused The one story that stuck out to me was how a woman wanted an abusers to be included in the Take Back the Night festivities on campus so that the abuser might get an understanding of what they were putting their victim through Abusers know what they are doing and the only thing that happens when they are included in circles with victims survivors is that the circle stops being a safe place for victims survivors.3 There were no trigger warnings on any of the stories which would have been very useful to navigate this book I, personally, can t read stories that involve BDSM as a method of dealing with past trauma and it would have been nice to have been able to skip over those stories before I actually started reading them 4 The insinuation that being Queer comes from sexual abuse While the next essay disputed this, it was still very troubling to see my sexuality minimized to sexual trauma Overall, this was a very informative read The book was interesting and well put together DISCLAIMER an Arc is provided by NetGalley and the publisher in exchange for an honest review TRIGGER WARNING The book contains of the notion and stories of violation, homophobia, incest, depression, suicide attempts, sexual abuse, discrimination, etc As this is a non fiction book, all the situation and condition either described or portrayed were and are real Our bodies are our greatest strength our sexuality, out senses, our instincts, and our greatest vulnerability our ability to be n DISCLAIMER an Arc is provided by NetGalley and the publisher in exchange for an honest review TRIGGER WARNING The book contains of the notion and stories of violation, homophobia, incest, depression, suicide attempts, sexual abuse, discrimination, etc As this is a non fiction book, all the situation and condition either described or portrayed were and are real Our bodies are our greatest strength our sexuality, out senses, our instincts, and our greatest vulnerability our ability to be not just penetrated and physically violated, but also psychologically abused, damaged, and shamed for our desires and perceived desires We carry around these hurts, these sometimes invisible scars, these sometimes gaping wounds, into out adult lives and out adult sexualities out bodies feel good, until we remember what may have been done to them by trusted loved ones or strangers or abusive partners Out desires feel good, until they don t and we think we should be wanting or feeling some other way and we are ashamed Most of us don t know what to do with this feelings, this trauma of violation that we have stored in our bones, in our tendons, in our muscles Sure, there are many ways to escape the memories and history denial, numbness.But that often means cutting off communication with what our bodies are saying to us Sometimes the numbness is a small price to pay for not feeling what may be stored in our bodies Sometimes the work of feeling again means going back into those old memories and working them out sometimes they may not even be out memories, they may be part of the collective unconscious that for some reason is in storage in our bodies Maybe for a while we can find somewhere safe, someone safe, to help us hold back the monster memories, but it is temporary Because wherever we go, there we are if our minds or our own bodies or our own histories scare us, the best way I know how to deal is to look directly at it and see what is inside To incorporate, to invite in To sit down with the monsters for a cup of tea We cannot erase the past there are so manytopics and views to be discussed in this book I will give you the time to discover it by yourself as this is the book you should give a go and experience to read by yourself Whether you do agree or disagree, it does not matter It helps you to understand that there are many things happen surround us which may be hard to explains through words but should be acknowledged If you have read it, I would love to have a discussion with you.Full review I ve been a volunteer at a domestic violence shelter for years and watched how we have slowly redefined our space to make itinclusive This book forced me to challenge myself and the implicit assumptions within me, providing new perspective. Real Rating 3.5 Stars I received a free copy of this anthology through Netgalley in return for an honest review Content Notices pretty much everything you can think of rape, sexual violence, incest, child abuse, eating disorders, BDSM, institutional violence, suicide attempts, physical violence, racism, racialized violence, neglect, emotional abuse, domestic abuse Writing this review is incredibly hard because Queering Sexual Violence is such an important book which is packed full of que Real Rating 3.5 Stars I received a free copy of this anthology through Netgalley in return for an honest review Content Notices pretty much everything you can think of rape, sexual violence, incest, child abuse, eating disorders, BDSM, institutional violence, suicide attempts, physical violence, racism, racialized violence, neglect, emotional abuse, domestic abuse Writing this review is incredibly hard because Queering Sexual Violence is such an important book which is packed full of queer people s lived experiences of sexual violence How do you even begin to rate and review a book which shares incredibly sensitive, emotional, powerful life experiences of which many of the contributors are sharing for the first time It s an almost impossible task and as such, I want to shift the focus of this review away from reviewing their stories and focus it instead on the anthology instead what it s about, why it s so important, and my experience of reading the collection as a wholeI do not see these aspects of my identity as separate, or separable They do not exist as isolated truths Each identity plays into and informs the otherI want to start by saying that the importance of Queering Sexual Violence QSV should not be understated As a queer, transmasculine person I have never seen myself reflected within anti sexual violence discourses or welcomed into sexual survivor spaces and this is often the case for many fellow queer people who are constantly denied access too QSV brings together a diverse collection of 37 contributions from queer, trans and gender non conforming survivors from within the anti violence movement and is organized around four themes Redefining, Reclaiming, Resisting, Reimagining It is a space in which they are able to speak, to share, to rage, to cry, to reflect, to organize, and to challenge dominant sexual violence discourseIn order to truly address the root causes of sexual violence and move forward we must abandon the Victim Survivor and Survivor Perpetrator binaries Maybe then we will be better able to embrace our own complex identities, create a truly anti sexual violence framework and sustain a powerful and inclusive movementOne of the main things that I loved about this anthology is that it disrupts so many of the harmful dichotomies which are entrenched within the anti violence movement and sexual violence discourse such as victim survivor, victim perpetrator, male female, safe unsafe Men are always framed as perpetrators of sexual violence, women always as the victims As one contributor argues, these strict oppositional presentations oversimplify all of the complexities and nuances of individuals, relationships, narratives, and experiences, and which result in the perpetuation of violence against queer people Abusive female partners are allowed to continue access to those that they have abused, even within safe spaces Abused men are denied access from community support groups and organizing spaces, leaving them isolated and vulnerable to further abuse People of colour are subjected to further racism and racialized violence, and trans people are left out in the cold with no resources despite both people of colour and trans people especially QTIPOC experiencing disproportionate amounts of sexual violenceAnd standing there, I asked myself am I a Survivor I had survived my battles I was alive, after all but she made it sound like this Survivor was someone in particular, someone unabashed, sweet, optimistic someone with an obligation And I knew I could never be that SurvivorFor the first time, I found myself being able to relate to some of the narratives told throughout this collection As mentioned before, as a queer, transmasculine person I have been constantly denied access to survivor spaces and from entering into anti violence discourses because men are always seen as perpetrators of violence and therefore are unsafe Like many of the contributors, this has meant that I haven t been allowed the space to share my experiences or even begin to process things that have happened to me in the past, yet countless abusive non male identified people are welcomed into those spaces and allowed to continue enacting their abusive behaviors upon others QSV is so, so, so important for not only disrupting these harmful attitudes but also for providing a space for queer people to actually see themselves reflected in the narratives being sharedWe believe that offering this gender inclusive model of safe space is essential because what we are trying to exclude from a safe space is not a particular form of body but rather, the potential, will, and habit to do violence in its many subtle and blatant formsIt would be impossible to truly give an accurate picture of all the things that QSV offers in a way that would do it any kind of justice All I can do is encourage you all to pick up the anthology, delve into the experiences being shared, and see for yourself I was first approved for QSV on Netgalley almost a year ago and it took me a long while to work up to it because I was worried that it would be too heavy to read Of course, the book does deal with very heavy topics including rape, sexual violence against children including parent child rape, institutional violence, and suicide attempts to name but a few However, I personally found it not as heavy to read due to the personal nature of many of the stories but there were a few that I did struggle with especially those that gave graphic details, used ase exclusive language, or focused heavily on BDSM.Lastly, the reasons that I gave this anthology a 3.5 star rating rather than 5 stars is for the following reasons Although QSV as a whole speaks of the importance of disrupting gendered discourse around sexual violence, I was very disappointed by the lack of representation of trans masculine people As far as I could work out 6 of the contributors were non binary, 2 male identified, and the other 29 works were by queer women both cis and trans Although it was amazing to see so many radical voices challenging the idea of men as perpetrators it was gutting that there weren t any contributions that spoke to my experiences as a trans masculine person As far as I m aware, there wasn t any inclusion of asexual or aromantic people are their experiences with sexual violence In fact, several of the works spoke about the importance of consensual sex and or BDSM practices for being able to work through a history of sexual violence In one case, it was argued that sex is the only thing that can achieve that fully which I personally found to be very erasive of asexual people Lastly, I loved that QSV is a collection which depicts multiple experiences, identities, and truths which is imperative for challenging discourses around the right way to experience and recover from sexual violence However, I did find the anthology to be a little bit too long and found it difficult to keep going towards the end simply because I ran out of steam It would be a great collection to dip and out of though.Regardless of these few niggly bits, I would really encourage others to read QSV and encourage others to read it to The positives of the anthology definitely outweigh the negatives by far and QSV is a fantastic resource that should be utilizedboth by people within and outside of radical movements I will definitely be purchasing a physical copy to continue to refer back to, and am incredibly thankful to both the editor, contributors, and publisher for bringing this collection out into the world.Check out my blog forreviews I received a copy of this novel from the publisher via Netgalley, in exchange for an honest review Note I will use Queer as an umbrella term because that is the word I use to identify myself and because that is the word used throughout the bookSometimes we forget things We forget how limiting and exclusionary binaries are male female, victim survivor, survivor perpetrator, safe unsafe We forget about accountability We forget that our queer partners can abuse us We forget that even whenI received a copy of this novel from the publisher via Netgalley, in exchange for an honest review Note I will use Queer as an umbrella term because that is the word I use to identify myself and because that is the word used throughout the bookSometimes we forget things We forget how limiting and exclusionary binaries are male female, victim survivor, survivor perpetrator, safe unsafe We forget about accountability We forget that our queer partners can abuse us We forget that even when we try to create safe spaces , these spaces can be unsafe to members of our communityQueering Sexual Violence is the kind of book I wish I d had to guide me during the last couple of years of my undergrad This book is a conversation, a dialogue, an exposition, an anthology of diverse voices who peel back layers upon layers of a topic we don t usually talk Queer Violence.The anthology focuses on different sides, binaries, and stereotypes that have plagued and hindered the Anti Violence Movement, such as the idealization of the survivor as opposed to a victim , the correct way of dealing with trauma and violence, the expected perpetrator, the conception of safe spaces , and the place of queer people in the movement.To do this, the book is divided into four parts, each of which explores and challenges different aspects of the Anti Violence Movement Redefining deals with the misconceptions and essentialization that limit the scope and reach of the movement, such as the ideal survivor behavior, the different types of sexual violence people encounter and how they might shape them It also offers insights into how safe spaces for healing and acceptance are oftentimes not welcoming to people who act or look too queer to fit in with their views, even inside the queer community Reclaiming deals with what it takes to move on and work towards a collective and personal healing Reclaiming is taking back the story and everything that s been taken from people, the control of a non linear and faded narrative that people have tried to wipe clean with bleach and oil, but managed to only spread the pieces apart This part of the anthology has beautiful poems and heartwrenching stories that have been pieced together with time, and tears, and patience In a way, Reclaiming is healing Resisting is the fight back part, where no means no and pushing back in the face of rape culture and abuse, is exposed in way better words than I can even pretend to have Resisting defines and paints a racist, homophobic, stupid, and power high culture that believes itself superior to everything else, and then tells us what needs to change, how we can and need to push back, resist, fight Finally, Reimagining takes a look at the what ifs not the what if things were different but what if we made things different The authors in Reimagining root their ideas in their past experiences to explain why and how certain aspects could and should be changed, fixed, improved The tone of the writings starts oftentimes angry, or sad, but they turn back to hopeful, or optimistic in time.I loved the intimacy of each writing, even though it was painful or shocking to read at times I was informed, and even challenged by some of the points of views presented, and I learned a lot about other realities and problems to which I might have been blinded by stereotypes, willful ignorance, or just plain misunderstanding I never felt like I was being spoon fed ideas, or that the book was supposed to be taken passively No, Jennifer Patterson framed this anthology in such an artful and careful way that everything builds up and moves you toward something Maybe you re not supposed to just take what you re being shown, but you will see it Invisibility is one of our community s the queer community biggest flaw and Jennifer Patterson, and every single talented person involved in this book is fighting against that virus Yeah, we re there but we don t see beyond our kin , we fight individual battles, pushing for things in a million and one directions because we still believe that we are a homogenous thing that is affected by the same one thing spoiler we are not.This book will make you uncomfortable, it will challenge what you know and think, and feel because at its core this book wants you to think, to see Why is this book so necessary Why are we hearing this voices now and not before Why is this so controversial What about this makes you uncomfortable What about this is familiar Why did we stop listening These are the questions you need to ask and answer for yourself because Queering Sexual Violence is an invitation and a discussion that you need to have with yourself.If not you, who Thank you NetGalley and Riverdale Avenue Books for my ebook This book is a vital text for anyone invested in movement when our own truths and communities are the key to creating strategies to prevent sexual violence, interrupt it when it happens, repair relationships harmed by sexual violence and create alternative forms of accountability when harm does happen, in order to inhabit a world in which all our lives matter I am a cisgender, straight female in a loving marriage who has never been to Thank you NetGalley and Riverdale Avenue Books for my ebook This book is a vital text for anyone invested in movement when our own truths and communities are the key to creating strategies to prevent sexual violence, interrupt it when it happens, repair relationships harmed by sexual violence and create alternative forms of accountability when harm does happen, in order to inhabit a world in which all our lives matter I am a cisgender, straight female in a loving marriage who has never been touched by sexual violence living without experiencing intimate violence is a privilege I found this eye opening and a little horrifying as I attempted to place myself in the shoes of each author Storytelling has always played an integral part in revolutionary movements it is one of the essential places of power that we possess Yes, some of the chapters are harsh and gritty and difficult to read, but many of them are also emboldened and inviting and healing as well Because nobody talks about their shit in public So I decided I would My favourite piece was Now is the Time to Speak out by Nitika Raj This is the book I always wanted to read This is activism Ths is cobweb cleaning This is how it was This is who we are now This is where we go next We can t be stopped, we can t be stopped, we can t be stopped Read this book.