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FREE DOWNLOAD ë Arousal: The Secret Logic of Sexual Fantasies ⚠ In this fascinating and provocative book, Dr Michael Bader offers a groundbreaking new theory of sexual desire Drawing on his twenty five years as a psychotherapist and psychoanalyst, Dr Bader demonstrates that rather than being programmed by biology or society, sexual fantasies and preferences are really psychological antidotes to unconscious dangers Armed with this novel theory, men and women will no longer need to feel ashamed about what arouses them or confused about what arouses others The ideas in the book are thought provoking, but the book is written in a way that makes reading it a slog I give it s content 5 stars, but I have to take 2 back for the writing. This is a marvelous book At the very end, Bader tosses off a sweeping philosophical statement that provides a key to his thinking In a few sentences, he discards the Freudian fantasies of perverted, sadistic children whose original impulses areor less directly expressed in adult human perversions such as an obsession with anuses or high heels or punishment Instead, with compassion and the kind of common sense that is all too rare in the professionally trained of any profession, he pro This is a marvelous book At the very end, Bader tosses off a sweeping philosophical statement that provides a key to his thinking In a few sentences, he discards the Freudian fantasies of perverted, sadistic children whose original impulses areor less directly expressed in adult human perversions such as an obsession with anuses or high heels or punishment Instead, with compassion and the kind of common sense that is all too rare in the professionally trained of any profession, he proposes that we gravitate towards sexual preferences and scenarios that make us feel safe enough to express our sexuality, scenarios that serve to down regulate the shame, anxiety, guilt and fear we all inor less quantities associate with sexuality He names as his intellectual antecedent a man names Weiss, a mentor he had studied under It s the way of intellectual movements that dramatic, implausible, exciting theories makeof a splash than their calmer,common sense oriented cousins This is a real pity You d think we d have gotten tired of thrilling but ultimately baseless theorizing after the 20th century with all its failures I hope we have Especially after Greenspan s theory of economics works just like Ayn Rand says it does has driven us into a ditch that our grandchildren will be lucky to drive out of, I hope we reopen to the less flashy, common sense philosophies of people like Bader It s not arousal that I recently read, it s Male Sexuality Why Women Don t Understand It And Men Don t Either Okay at first I wasn t much impressed The book seemed standard fare as in fantasies are a way of dealing with childhood trauma and adult fears But then, I got to thinking maybe pornography, dominance issues, and prostitution aren t generally dealt with from a fear trauma perspective Bader s point, for example, that some men worry too much about taking care of or not hurting It s not arousal that I recently read, it s Male Sexuality Why Women Don t Understand It And Men Don t Either Okay at first I wasn t much impressed The book seemed standard fare as in fantasies are a way of dealing with childhood trauma and adult fears But then, I got to thinking maybe pornography, dominance issues, and prostitution aren t generally dealt with from a fear trauma perspective Bader s point, for example, that some men worry too much about taking care of or not hurting women, and therefore seek out relationships outside their marriages where they can relax and enjoy sex without being responsible for the well being and happiness of the women What do you think Anybody read this This book is an embarrassment of riches on understanding sexual fantasies without judgment and with a focus on to the inner self Reading the book is a little bit like getting psychoanalyzed, but in a very good way Why do we fantasize the way we do in all our individual peculiarities Because our brains are going to figure out how to get us aroused safely In that context, the outer shell gets broken and our true inner demons, often that have nothing to do with sex, are exposed Thinking about This book is an embarrassment of riches on understanding sexual fantasies without judgment and with a focus on to the inner self Reading the book is a little bit like getting psychoanalyzed, but in a very good way Why do we fantasize the way we do in all our individual peculiarities Because our brains are going to figure out how to get us aroused safely In that context, the outer shell gets broken and our true inner demons, often that have nothing to do with sex, are exposed Thinking about sex never felt so analytical